Marriage || Keep Watering Your Grass

One of the major lessons I have learnt in my very short time of being married is to keep watering your grass.

Keep being intentional about first, honoring God in your marriage and then second, loving and caring for your spouse without restrictions.

Yes! When they make you feel good and even when you feel like dropping hot coal on their head. Lol!

Marriage is sweet but it takes intentional contributions of both spouses. Marriage is divine and must be operated by divine principles.

God has a purpose for marriage, a bigger purpose that must be fulfilled, so you see why both spouses have a part to play.

I remember one of my written goals for this year is to intentionally take care of my husband, I mean I just want to honour God in my marriage no matter what and each time it looks like I’m straying, I remind myself of this goal.

Look, I am not saying I’m a perfect wife or I have a perfect marriage but I have chosen to be an intentional wife, it’s a decision I made and God has since then made sufficient grace available to me.

So, either my husband makes me feel good or not, I am responsible for my actions and committed to honouring God with them, and I believe consistently playing my part, in turn, leads to perfection because effort is being made.

However, I am very much aware that no two marriages are the same but as long as you keep watering your grass, you will not have to envy your neighbour’s lawn.

It’s important to note that the ultimate goal is that God should be glorified in your marriage and that requires honoring Him by putting in your quota.

Till your ground!
Water your grass!
Keep dancing!
Keep honoring God, above all!

May your marriage never stop being a pointer to Jesus. Amen.

Keep Flourishing!


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Marriage || Life Lessons I Learnt from My Husband – Part 1

I know you’ve been told how important it is to marry a man/woman who really truly fears the Lord (Can’t be overemphasized)

It is also very important to marry a man/woman whom you’re attracted to (I mean, this is a serious business but story for another day)

But brethren, if you’ve never been told, hear it from me now, it’s ‘IMPORTANTER’ to marry a man/woman who is CONTENT (In all things). 

Grateful I married one! 🙌

The scripture says “Godliness with contentment is great gain” (1Timothy 6:6) that means they can be godly and not be content even with their God-given purpose, read my post on Understanding Contentment In Your Calling.

Apostle Paul said, “I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content” (Philippians 4:11)

This is a question of character, it takes effort to really learn something. So, they might be tongue blasting brothers/sisters without character. It’s beyond just being godly and purposeful. #MyPoint

So, to the full post…

One of the major lessons I have learned from my husband is how to be truly content. I am not saying I am not a content person but I have learned to be better even in the mundane things.

My husband isn’t one who is easily pressurized, he does things at his pace without any comparison or trying to impress anybody. I learned practically from my husband that the only antidote to comparison is contentment.

Contentment is a peace you feel in your spirit, a peace that makes you know what you have no matter how much or little is enough.

I have only been married to this amazing man for just one year, 4months and 8days (he’s been my best friend of almost eleven years though 😉) and I have watched how he has led our home. No money pressure, whatsoever we don’t have now, we don’t need it.

He is so content! We don’t have it all but the rule is to be happy wherever we are, life is in phases and this young man isn’t in a hurry to move ahead of himself or God. This doesn’t mean, he doesn’t have goals for the future or plans for a better life, but he’s just so content at this level that you can’t help admiring him.

How many time have we allowed what we don’t have at the moment steal the joy of the moment from us?

Me, especially, I used to be a very worrisome person until I met my husband. I worry about everything and anything, I have quoted Philippians 4:6 severally but I just didn’t seem to be doing what it says. And as someone said, comparison brings discontent and discontent, in turn, brings anxiety.

But you know how God can teach us a lesson from the lives of those around us and you kept wondering how can this person be so peaceful, happy and joyful even when they don’t have it altogether?

That was my case with my husband. He seems to have everything under control all the time because he is always in a state of joy and satisfaction and has never allowed any pressure get to him, but I can say I am a better person now.

My message to you is simple, be genuinely happy with what you have and where you are, don’t allow the pressure of the world and that of social media, especially, take away your joy.
Majority of them are not true. It’s not usually the real story! It’s vague! The show outside doesn’t usually match the truth on the inside!

Comparison will make you chase someone else’s life instead of enjoying yours.

Be determined to enjoy your life and be happy with whatever you have and wherever you are at presently.

Don’t live your life just so you could impress people, don’t allow societal pressure to determine your values. Be truly grateful for where you are.

Keep Flourishing!


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